Theology of winning

It is interesting listening to people discussing their relationship with their kids, or with the young people they work with, and how they describe that they can't "let young people win". win what you may ask, well win arguments, or win discussions, but it is the issue, of not allowing young people to win, or even the issue of winning itself that interests me. why is it as adults we are reluctant to be corrected, inspired, educated, or just learn from young people, why is it that we always feel that we have to be right, and not allow the openness of valuing the thoughts of our young people. And more to the point, do discussions have to be seen as won? is there not an argument for resolution, which is different that winning. For me winning implies that there is a looser, someone who is put down, and as much as I do agree with compeititon ins port, and thngs, I am not sure that competition and winning are useful elements in relationships in life.